By Scott Fitzgerald
KINGFISHER — Servrina Prim uses a metaphor to describe her life and her life’s mission.
“I threw a rock in the pond and there was a ripple,” said Prim who was invited to speak Feb. 22 at the state capitol about the second annual Day of Prayer for an end to Violence Against Women that was observed four days later.
Prim is not afraid to be vocal about violence against women because she herself is a victim.
While attending Oral Roberts University on a partial scholarship and studying for a degree in sacred music, the young woman was sexually assaulted by someone who knew her and her family.
Prim had trusted the young man as a friend for years.
“As women, we can’t let our guard down,” said Prim who is an Edmond Memorial High School graduate.
Shunned by her church and school, Prim chose to have her child and face the challenging world. She attended a hair stylist school and got assistance. And most importantly, she got involved with efforts to educate the public about violence against women.
“My goal has been to educate and minister. I feel that there is not enough compassion out there for women victims. I’m not afraid to speak up,” Prim said.
She has been approached by women in supermarkets who ask her to lend an ear and hear their stories. She has heard harrowing accounts.
“I’ve heard from some ladies who have gone to their attackers’ gravesides and cry, asking ‘Why did you do this to me?’” Prim said.
Prim said listening in itself becomes a vital part of the healing process. The fact she is a victim herself is a big plus in establishing or connecting bridges with other victims.
“I just listen. Validation is the most healing part. Two people can agree — this is wrong. No, that’s not right,” Prim said.
Prim is married to Wendell Prim, pastor of God’s Covenant Church in Kingfisher.
She would like to expand her program and message into more schools and churches. Her ultimate goal is to spread it internationally.
Prim is currently studying at Southern Nazarene University where she wants to receive a bachelor’s of science degree in psychiatry. She would eventually like to study in one of the state’s major universities and get a doctorate degree.
